Women don't work on reason.

This subject hits close to home. Even though I try to ignore it, I read something online that brings back what I strongly feel about it so going to put it on the blog. Browsing the internet I checked out TMZ (yeah i check that site just for entertainment purposes when it is slow) and the article I came across was about Rihanna and how she still have love for Chris Brown...the same guy that brutally beat her face some 3 years ago now. I didnt see the interview or how her voice or body language were. Some are saying she loves him as a friend while most people are saying she wants to get back with him at a later date. But what she said in the interview was:

"We're very, very close friends. We built a trust again and that's it. We love each other and we probably always will."  RiRi says the two are just friends now and they are in no way back together ... though she did admit, "I think he was the love of my life."  Rihanna did not mince words talking to Oprah about Chris Brown ... saying very simply, "I still love him."

What?! Seriously?! I don't even know how to explain it in a logical stand point. This is pure emotions at work, some call it "Battered Woman Syndrome." Just a simple question is... WHY? but the answer is anything but simple. You seek comfort from your friends everyday and inform them of all the bullshit you put up with, but when your friends tell you to move on, you start defending him, by saying your happy with him when he's not acting up. Rihanna basically forgives him for what he did. citing that when it happened, she was more concerned about his well being than hers. Chris brown is a pimp. My definition of a pimp is..someone who abuses them phyically/mentally, cheats on them, takes advantage of the person...yet the person allows it and goes back to the abuser! I dont know why they run back..maybe because thats all they know... too comfortable in that situation to get away...scared of leaving..or that battered woman syndrome where they feel sorry for the guy and wont leave him because who will look out/take care of him? again the question: why stay? is too complicated to answer.

Even if she states that she still has love for him as friend and nothing more...there is no reason for "friendship" with a person who treated you like that. Friends dont hurt each other like that. they dont abuse you, take advantage of you. Thats not a true friend. If it happened once, it can happen again. You know those type of dudes let their anger control them. i've had my fair of anger moments but not once where i hit a female. why because that is just a punk ass move. i hate dudes that beat on a woman, but hate it even more when the female allows it to happen and doesnt distance herself from the situation. not only is it pathetic, but also an issue of self respect. first time it happens....okay you're the victim..but it happens again, you are now a WILLING participant in that lifestyle and shouldnt go crying to your family and friends that it happened again because you didnt learn the first time. but its normal to comfort the person again and pray and hope they really learned their lesson this time. It really is a damn shame that these pretty/awesome females are willing to put themselves in that situation again just because 'they can be themselves' or 'hes the only one that understands me' really..? you have 6 billion people in the world and hes the only one that gets you? total mind fuck, and pimp'd by him.

A buddy of mine was saying how he felt sorry for her. "losing a close friend is 100x worst than losing someone you were just sleeping with"  which is true but tell that to a person that lost their close friend due to death. it's a lesson in life where you have to accept letting someone go. no matter how painful it will be. 

how she explained that she lost her best friend that night. 

"It was a weird, confusing space to be in ... because as angry as I was, as angry and hurt and betrayed, I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help ... and who's going to help him?"

Rihanna continued, "Nobody's going to say he needs help. Everybody's going to say he's a monster without looking at the source ... and I was more concerned about him." 

"I lost my best friend ... everything I knew switched ... switched in a night and I couldn't control that."

“We’ve been working on our friendship again,” Rihanna, appearing emotional at times, told Oprah. "We're very, very close friends. We built a trust again and that's it. We love each other, and we probably always will. And that's not anything that we're going to try to change. It's not something you can shut off if you've ever been in love." 

As far as whether it’s romantic, Rihanna said it’s not. “He’s in a relationship of his own,” Rihanna said, referring to Brown’s girlfriend, Karrueche Tran. “I’m single. But we have maintained a very close relationship ever since the restraining order was dropped. We just worked on it little by little, and it has not been easy. It is not easy.” She admitted that when she sees him she works hard to keep control of her feelings for him, because she becomes so overwhelmed by emotions in his presence “It’s awkward. It’s awkward because I still love him,” she said. “My stomach drops and I have to maintain this poker face, and not let it get to the outer part of me. I have to maintain that, suppress that, but interpret it, understand it, and know that’s not going to go away. When you don’t understand those feelings, you can make a lot of mistakes.”

a lot of women mistake DRAMA for PASSION and RECKLESSNESS for COURAGE.

She can forgive him if she wishes, but he needs to be kept at a distance and out of her life. Until then.....she will never really move on, or let anyone else into her life, because she will always be hoping in the back of her mind or deep in her heart, that they will be together again.

Getting tired of wasting my time and energy on this subject. it's been on my mind for a few days and been drafting this entry for a couple days. i should let this subject go and move on.... judgments stop us from understanding and can ruin our happiness. but it's also really difficult when someone who used to be very close to you that you love and care about does something that bothers you. 

was going to keep going but its going on a different subject...